"When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving" – Kim McMillen
Happiness is something that I believe most people in this world deserve and can achieve. I say most, because there are some people who are just miserable people. They live miserable lives and typically set out to make everyone else around them to have the same attitude. There is nothing that you can do to change them or their attitudes. They will never be satisfied because they are always looking for what's wrong with the picture. These people are toxic. Stay away from them. And, for all of you people fixers; no, you can't fix everyone.
We all know someone that we've dealt with in our lives who has brought this type of behavior into our lives. Maybe, you've even been the one with the toxic behavior. I'm not here to be self-righteous and pretend I'm a saint either. But, we have control over our own behavior and the decision of who we choose to surround ourselves with. And that control is very, very important.
I attribute much of my happiness in the last year to the fact that I rid my life of many toxic-filled relationships. I no longer wanted to deal with negative situations – sometimes it's inevitable. But, if I had a choice I chose to be done with toxicity in my life. I dismissed friendships, left a job, quit answering to ex boyfriends, and started realizing so many things about myself. The toxic relationships that I had found myself trapped in were sucking the life out of me. My anxiety was out of control. I went to the doctor several times for high blood pressure (24 and shouldn't be that stressed out). That's when it clicked for me. I was in the doctors office and my doctor said "If the writing is on the wall, read it. Stop stressing about the things that you cannot change. Whether it be a relationship, a person, or the conditions of your career. Stop. Find a peaceful way to remove yourself from those situations. And, just move on."
And I did.
I stopped trying to make friendships work that didn't add positivity into my life. I turned away from past relationships that were harmful to my happiness. I quit a job where I absolutely loved the people (still have many great friendships), but didn't feel the value that I felt necessary to continue growing in my career. I stopped finding value in people who didn't find value in me. I stopped doing things to make other people happy. This was very hard at first. Imagine knowing someone for a good portion of time and then just completely cutting them off? People will call you everything from crazy to selfish. Ignore it, because if you allow it to bother you then you're allowing toxicity to win again.
Do. What. Makes. You. Happy.
Dismiss the friendship
Quit the job
Cut ties with the ex that pops back up
Radiate positive energy
Focus on laughter
Be enough
Find people who make you feel good
Become the person people want to be around
Be thankful
Love yourself
Everything comes full circle. The law of attraction is real, ya'll.
-Hannah
Blonde.ISH. 